How to Tie a Bow Tie
A self-tied bow tie is the mark of someone who pays attention to detail. While pre-tied bow ties are convenient, they lack the character and subtle asymmetry that makes a hand-tied bow tie look authentic. The good news is that with a little practice, tying a bow tie is no harder than tying your shoes. Follow the steps below to master the classic bow tie knot.
Self-Tie vs Pre-Tied
Self-Tie (Freestyle)
The real deal. A self-tie bow tie comes untied and you tie it yourself. It has a natural, slightly imperfect shape that signals authenticity. Required for black-tie events and strongly preferred for any formal occasion.
Pre-Tied
A pre-tied bow tie has a fixed, machine-made shape and attaches with a hook or clip. While convenient, the perfectly symmetrical shape can look artificial. Best reserved for very casual settings or children.
Step-by-Step Instructions
- 1Drape the bow tie around your neck with one end about 1.5 inches longer than the other. The longer end should be on your right.
- 2Cross the longer end over the shorter end.
- 3Pass the longer end up through the neck loop to create a simple knot. Tighten gently.
- 4Fold the shorter (hanging) end into a bow shape by doubling it over at the widest part. Hold it horizontally across your collar.
- 5Drop the longer end straight down over the center of the bow shape you just made.
- 6Pinch the longer end to create a fold, then push it through the loop behind the front bow shape.
- 7Tug on opposite ends (the folded parts, not the tips) to tighten. Adjust until symmetrical.
Tips for a Great Bow Tie
Practice in Front of a Mirror
The first few times, stand in front of a mirror so you can see what you are doing. It may take five or six attempts before the knot feels natural. Practice with the bow tie over a t-shirt so you can focus on the technique without worrying about your outfit.
Slight Asymmetry Is Fine
A self-tied bow tie is not supposed to look perfectly even. Slight asymmetry is what distinguishes a hand-tied bow tie from a pre-tied one. Do not obsess over making both sides identical. A little character is part of the charm.
When to Wear a Bow Tie
Bow ties are the standard for black-tie and white-tie events, always paired with a tuxedo. They also work well at weddings, holiday parties, and anywhere you want to stand out. For daily business wear, a traditional necktie is usually more appropriate, though a bow tie can work in creative or academic settings.